She was always smiling and had alot of positive energy. We are in a long distance relationship for 1,5 years. We tend to have a hard time understanding the way the majority of people interact. Its happened before.and it usually takes me to approach him. Its not just that you love him, but you have free will to decide what you want. Asperger's syndrome is a neurobiological, developmental disorder related to autism. Hes such a loving, hands-on Dad so much of the time, but he is so intense and places so many demands on everyone, such high expectations, a place of no person. You are not alone, you are not crazy, and you dont deserve the treatment. Yet he doesnt seem interested in responding. I sometimes feel his a narcissistic person, but then I remind myself his an Aspie. I'm so glad I ran across this blog post. When that doesn't work, they criticize me. They create a mask for the rest of us, but anyone will tire eventually if they have to pretend constantly. I have no words. He has a therapist I pushed him to get, due to a personal addiction that was ruining our/his personal life that he was obsessed with. So to save alot of heartbreak, upset and unecessary mental grief for all..be true to who you really are. When I recognized what I had done wrong and tried to reconcile, I was expecting us to talk it out like most friends do and move forward. I try to comfort her in her bad times. He cannot forgive or forget anything; he loves giving me the silent treatment; he calls me a fucking bitch and constantly makes threats to leave me; he is a very sick man. Vicky, I hear ya!! Ive been married for less than a year and already I have found myself in the vicious cycle of being ignored repeatedly. They DO come backbecause its happened to menumerous timesjust when you climb out of the darkness I have apologized to him a few times, but he just doesnt seem to be interested in talking now. I thought I was living in a nightmare because this was not the person I had dated. I felt accepted. I also offer monthly free webinars for course participants. I confessed my feelings to her,even telling her how my heart felt. We chatted everyday for more than a month and talked on the phone for hours on end a couple of times a week. I wasnt aware of the condition, but did my slight bit of research. I didnt know till it was too late. You Matter. I feel lost. 15 years inshell of myself, goals unmet, dreams deferred, hopes dashed, weight gain, depression, addictions!! I wish everyone well, get out as soon as you can. I hear ya sister! I also think one or both of his parents are on the spectrum but thats a tale for another time. In other words, since he loves you, why does he have to show it. Aspies tend to be more literal, routine-oriented, and may need more alone time. I was hurt that this woman I like is now talking about random guys with me. Its tough and if they wont work with us, then it all falls apart. Nothing gets through to him , but he is not a mean nor angry person. What is hard to understand is we have good times. Is this about me or is it a sad effort to keep away a world he does not understand? He moves on as if i never was..never existed. Im too old to go but so dont want to stay!! Our resentment towards each other is extreme and I find having any hope very difficult. The relationship will fail if you think that "dropping hints" or describing your needs in vague terms is enough to get your point across. What I don't understand is why she has completely stopped communicating with me. We could never finish a single conversation. You given me a starting place to help make some decisions. avoid certain activities or expectations. Next conflict was him stopping me in mid conversation to say he was bored by what I was talking about. I am so sorry you are going through this Athena. My biggest problem is once he hits a long enough period of time of childish silence by the time hes done Im done! Since then he pulled away and been mia for a week. My bf takes antidepressants and I suspect he is on the spectrum. You quickly made up, and there were a lot of tears from both of you. AND IT FEELS GREAT! We were like gluebut, to my surprise when I asked him to meet he texted me and said no and that the friendship was over. There are spouses of ASD who can behave this way because the relationship can create depression. Im 23 years married , 2 beautiful daughters, age 19 and 16. How very kind of you. People with Asperger's may be erroneously perceived as "not having emotion." Communication and emotional regulation issues can make relationships challenging for those with Asperger's . Thank you. We know that many problems cannot be fixed. I feel so sorry for some of the women here. Both are Empathy Dysfunctions. You were energized and felt healed by this love. There are almost no helpful resources for understanding the fundamental differences between NTs and NDs. I think its either because they had one parent not on the spectrum or parents who did not teach by example these behaviors and held them to higher standards. She was the first and only person to love me for me and being with her was the best few months of my life. Every time I tried reaching out to talk about the relationship he would get distressed, verbally aggressive, showing absolutely no empathy and his take was that this period was to not talk at all. His drinking also started to get really bad and in social situations he would say things that would embarrass me in front of our friends. Be yourselfstop toning it down..because you cannot as you say keep it up. Friends trump family always because his friends share the same special interest, biking. My advice for you Bridget is to weighs the pros and cons and above all is his wellbeing to be put before yours ? He spent over 100 grand in a couple months on international trips and presents, we had a lot in common, and shared very niche shared passions. Very particular eating habits. People who experience cognitive/mental health difficulties are at high risk of not being able to control their behaviour and it doesnt have to be related to personality difficulties. And when he comes out of it he wont even know that it was painful for me, and thats okay. He wants to be alone and no pressure to have to explain or defend his state of mind. They tell a lot when they get mad. With a personality difficulty, its entitlement. He ghosted me out of the blue after one fight / tantrum he created, and stopped answering my messages, and never even broke up with me. I tried for 6 yearshe even tried to commit suicide and sent me a text saying forgive me. ASPERGER SYNDROME & RELATIONSHIPS Support, creating their own personal rules for engagement, Asperger Syndrome: Partners and Family of Adults with ASD, Our of Mind Out of Sight: Parenting with a Partner with Asperger Syndrome (ASD), Membership Support for ASD/NT Relationships, The Big Mistake (And The Five Steps to Correct it), Healing from Unspeakable Tragedies of the Past. Functional cookies help to perform certain functionalities like sharing the content of the website on social media platforms, collect feedbacks, and other third-party features. Like everyone else I am so relieved to not feel so alone. He constantly will just get dressed and leave and then come back surprised I got worried about him. We too went through bouts of hyperfocus, honeymoon phases and then he would back off for a minute and then come around again. But lives in a luxury building in a nice area. Please take care. I just wanted to share with you, so you dont feel so alone. I met an undiagnosed Aspie on an online dating site, we hit it off quickly and he seemed he was so in to me! All this while also catering to and coddling the ASD partner like a child as to never upset him. Thank you. The. Just to take some of the pressure off him and telling him to take all the time and space he needs while assuring him that I was calm and here for him when he is ready. Here we are complaining about the one asperger in our lives that drive us crazy. I remind people to take your down time in order to regroup emotionally. Im going through a hard time at the moment. He doesnt like that I hike and run, and write mystery novels and has said Im a terrible writer. Right now my mother has used private info I told her about a bad time my husband lost it and grabbed me so I wouldnt leave him and told the cops . My ex-boyfriend who I believe has Asperger's broke up with me 4 months ago. My anxiety is in overdrive and Im scared to keep bombarding him when I know this might push him away but I also need answers and some form of communication. Armed with this info, I told I was sorry I hurt his feelings. Associated conditions, such as a sleep disorder or ADHD, can make driving challenging, too. Nothing was wrong ( that I knew of) he is hyper critical at everything I do, it has to be done his way or its wrong. I find it so surprising yet because he has done it before I know it may not be the end. I would appreciate any advice to understand what happened with him, I am just a very emotional person and this has made me really depressed. Dont be silent back, you will make them feel more disappointed about us. One of the most frequent questions I'm asked is why an aspie (or suspected aspie) suddenly goes "cold" and backs off on an otherwise good relationship. Be kind to yourself, seek support and bring calmness to your life as best you can. Whatever the reason, the aspie change resistance kicks in. Then suddenly he started drinking again and saying really hurtful things when drunk. And as for the 9 months coldness, did you do anything that unintentionally hurt him? Hi there,I have been with my Aspergers partner for over 1 year. I went to our Rabbi about it a couple of times, and the Rabbi would like to speak to him about his anger problems (a few months ago he said some horrible things to to our eldest son), but he refuses to see the Rabbi. Not that I am aware of. But the pain they inflict is devastating. Corey wayne is life and peak performance coach. I camouflage extremely well and I can hide the Aspergers for the most part. It was just the totality of feeling taken for granted and unappreciated. Aspies can be taken advantage of by sociopaths. They need very specialized therapists. You felt like the luckiest person on the planet. He was to me. The fact is that there are lots of people out there who really feel very little for others and who are very manipulative. Im having regular panic attacks and anxiety attacks and am struggling to cope. Guy: "Emotions are unreliable. He went through all of our savings had a meltdown that lasted for 12 months and then wanted to come home. I need advice on how to deal with this because all the usual advice just isn't going to work, I can't explain myself well and I freeze up and break down when I try. Im exhausted too!! He demanded me to leave his room, I did nt, he leant over me and screamed in my face to get out. Why do you always ask how I feel? I think I make it worse by constantly trying to get him to talk. I tried to be loving and supportive. He is a logical thinker, not emotional as i can see you obviously are. How am I supposed to give of myself and take huge risks if he cannot even state that he is moving forward with me. Familiarize yourself with the signs, sometimes known as the seven stages of trauma bonding. I too am dating an Aspie. I study to become a psychologist, so I even have a special interest in people's diversity. It makes me feel Ive not done enough to deserve being loved. For the context Aspie is referred to people who has Asperger's, and NT is a person with normal brain. Thanks for the posts - it REALLY helps to read other peoples' stories because now I don't feel alone. I freaked out cuz hes depressed and he owns weapons. It's not easy being an aspie in an NT world. I know that a lot of us, including me, struggle with social interactions, like understanding others because of the innuendoes and the unspoken for example, but also being understood by others and to behave in a way . Note Im a very social person. If you have a loved one on the Spectrum, please check our private MeetUp group. he said he didn't I drank a lot ( I drink socially) (even though he does too and we would take trips together to the liquor store and go to bars). The poor lamb couldn,t cope. We are on day 3 of no talking. I finally managed to convince him that psychology is a science, though a very young one and with different methods. actually, at 65 just a life without his never ceasing childish bickering. Years and I didnt want to have kids due to childhood traumas of a narcissist mother. Trying to be the best mom to a very aware daughter and stay involved with other aspects of my life. But the negatives far outweighed the positives. Nevertheless, I'll try to point out some possibilities. Did things improve? I feel selfish saying that but I care about him so much and I will wait, however long I have to because I don't want to be like all the others in his life and walk away when things get tough. And I do it right back so he understands how cruel it is. Our Meetup group has both male and female members. Are you still together? I know its hard but no one is entitled to hurt others. why do aspies suddenly back off in relationships. I went through a lot of silent treatments and neglect but whats worse is that he cheated on me. I asked if her boyfriend was going to be there. I dont know how to deal with it. We didn't think about asperger's in the beginning, I just noticed that he was different, and I liked that, because I often feel that I am different too. Also years of being an outcast picked on psychologically and physically abused means I tend to assume at a subconscious level people probably won't like me, when reality turns out not to match you deep seated insecurites it can be exciting but also frightening. I love this article and it resonates so much. I certainly grieve over my mistakes and wished Id had the insight I have now. I never said a word or even complained. But this, this was different. Its oh so hard for them At the time I had no idea of my limitations as I'd never been truly in love before, but communication rather than cold, unilateral action is the key. He is cold doesnt talk and does not listen and is super anxious all the time . why it's so important to learn more about your partner's condition. Also I want to know is it something I did that made him act like this ? You were being accused of something that had nothing to do with you, and the more you tried to explain, the angrier and more unreasonable your partner became. When I brought up how he doesn't express how he feels or take proactive steps he backed off a bit. By clicking Accept All, you consent to the use of ALL the cookies. There is so much I could say about your post. I was so confused, but after 3 painful months once he had time to think about it, and during a break so he had time to think (because he's normally quite stressed and busy) about it, he realized what he had done, and then he came back and tried to help me through all the pain that he had caused by all of a sudden just closing up to me. No topics were off limits in our conversations. I don't understand how marriages last a long time. I'm guessing they do most of the talking and initiative, such as inviting you to places, etc, you feel left out and not in control so your interest may simply die out. This cookie is set by GDPR Cookie Consent plugin. To even begin to resolve these issues, youre going to have to understand each other. Got upset if I said he was good at anything. This is in jeopardy now. He would lie that hes asleep but hes awake and ignoring my calls or texts. There are times to be kind and supportive. We had been hanging out for a few weeks, finally kissed, and then I havent seen her since. I know they dont mean harm but they are harmful to me. Always take care of yourself and never doubt for a moment that you have been an exceptional spouse. Its a disappointment issue. I should have given up and left. Here he comesto yet again suck out your very souland Youbecause of trauma bond..you let them inoh my godthe times i have done this!!? Now i feel as she is completely different person. A lot has happened in the last 11 months. I know he will always have Aspergers but I really do believe he has the capacity to gain knowledge to deal with some of the symptoms in a healthier way. We admit we do not know what NT's mean by 'love', especially as NTs are so duplicit or at least fickle. Providing no-cost, ad-free, high-quality articlesby autistic writers and professionals. Once you take the course, you can join our online community. It's not personal, just a reflection of how the concept of social reciprocity is a struggle for us. I asked him to put the kids before himself and not cause them any anguish by watching the way he is treating me. I had stupid stupid argument when my aspie fiancee was lecturing me on how to do something and showed (as usual) no concern for the stress I was under at the time. We havent had sex which is on me bc Ive truthfully lost attraction. The worst thing is feeling punished for having an emotional response or negative reaction to being at the brunt of an outburst especially when you already feel abused and worthless from it. So yeah, as the title says, I never had a date with anyone in my life, but I was wondering how dating is going for other aspies. Was married 10 years the first time, about 3 years too long, before I finally left and almost 11 this time and its complicated. Was this at all like the aspie-neurotypical relationship youve experienced, or is it similar to your current relationship? Just hang ups/silent treatments/lies I never got the truth on. Unlike me those things don't interest him. This Is what is meant by detachment. I keep going over his characteristics and they all add up. Just exhausted. My intention was never offend, diagnose or whatever. That's how they think adults are supposed to behave. One day he went to the extreme and this was followed by silence treatment. Even screamed at, and things thrown/punched walls. Thank you for your candid post. Now he thinks I am stalker (he believes in these conspiracy theories, his special interest). If you question him, he takes it personally. The last 2 years have been push/pull. I got pretty upset today and he texted me back. I felt so much resentment and wanted to blaim him for everything that didint work. I need to try to make friends with the other introverts. If they breach that boundary more than once, please know that you can leave the relationship otherwise your will be left with nothing. This website uses cookies to improve your experience while you navigate through the website. You also have the option to opt-out of these cookies. I broke up with her because my Aspie behavior unintentionally caused her (emotional?) This time, when he resurfaces, and I believe he will, I wont make the mistake of getting back together. Things went well for the beginning until he confided he might be ASD. Few weeks after we reconnected and decided to start over again. It got worse because my wife went through a period of depression and started taking antidepressants and I think that makes it even worse. I too have experienced much the same as you. She said no, and later that day asked me why I asked. Each is shaped by their background, their upbringing, their beliefs and their local customs. Self-help guides and traditional couples therapy arent going to fix these differences. He is giving me the silent treatment and I am completely devastated. I have a 33 years marriage to another Aspie (I realised). In fact, I think the signs were all there and his folks just never paid attention to them. I LEFT! Hes arrested again. Believe it or not, this is quite common for Aspies. They fail to take into consideration the person into their reasoning. (If youre a NT in an NT/AS relationship, please feel free to join this group.). We were coworkers, only mildly acquainted. I tried to reach out and talk about what happened, our feelings and he shut me down saying it has no sense to talk about that and that all has already been said. Never all this type of abuse. Your partner who had cared so much about your feelings was now annoyed by them. You thanked the person, but do you think this is the right or healthy way to conduct a relationship between two adults? I find out a few days later he was still talking to his best friend. And often in online support groups of women only, I cant relate to topics such as physical abuse or outraged/angry approaches. Its a difficulty, not an excuse. I really want to just run away but he says he's suicidal and I'm so stressed out that I'm physically sick frequently. Performance cookies are used to understand and analyze the key performance indexes of the website which helps in delivering a better user experience for the visitors. Common ASD symptoms are motor coordination challenges, delayed decision-making skills and problems with executive functioning (those higher-level thinking skills, like multi-tasking). Sometimes I pretend so well I forget this is not true just a facade to get through Thanksgiving or Christmas of family trips! He went through a period when he did not know what to do with his life, I tried to help but became frustrated with both the lack of direction as well as the lack of communication. A life of not udnerstanding teaches you strategies to appear to understand, simply to make life easier. You felt like you were on a new wavelength, and so you were absorbed in this world with this new love who had so many interesting insights and strong feelings. He told me that he could not be in a romantic relationship and that the most he could offer me was friendship, but he needed time to take care of himself. It seems like this is my only shot and if you agree on a video session, I am planning to talk to him. We went through a serious disagreement about her choice of partners. At first when he was just a bit hurt he reacted by getting angry at me. He will not change. Hopefully you are doing well now (and your friend too!) I did us both a favor by ending the suffering. This cookie is set by GDPR Cookie Consent plugin. That's relating - we don't all live in a bubble. He said there is no one else. Is overwhelming. he always thinks of others and never forgets my birth day. If all aspies were completely alike and predictible, they'd be a stereotype but they're not. But what I have come to realise is that asperger's really is a developmental disorder. Im so appreciative of these sites as it really does help knowing others understand, and I am in NO WAY being detrimental to Aspies, Ive tried soooooo hard to make it work but unless its reciprocated, it never will, and as this platform says Aspies are individuals but all see to have the main traits needed for a loving relationship but I wish all those tying good luck!!! I want out of all of this. And sometimes he will shut down and while being silent send a news article to me about something funny or relating to my likes. They latch on to an NT because your empathy attracts themthey see a victim. Please, take your focus off him and onto you and your child. He cant do feelings at all. Apparently he does not have the skills necessary to create a loving relationship. When you realize you are doing more work than your ASD loved one, it is time to break the codependency. Where once you were a hero and life-saver, now you were being considered a terror. I want to tell her how I feel today, that I feel sad about how things are but I know that will make her feel anxious, so I have nothing to say. Something terrible happened to me and my partner last week but mainly to me, a violation of my privacy and my partner who is aspie felt as though his pride was damaged and now blames me for what has happened. Thats why Mark Zuckerberg made a fortune with Facebook. He chose to sit in a bar and drink to excess every night. I started feeling like a puzzle piece that anyone could fill if they were OK with parallel play and doing what he wants to do all weekend. But wont face the point of the argument. Over the course of months and months, Id send emails and texts, and hed just reply with the same sterile text, "Sorry youre hurting" or something like that, leaving no room for conversation or reconciliation. We both have a high iq, me 130 and he 165. He told me from the initial beginning of our relationship that he has Aspergers syndrome. I understand its is autism but it hurts me because I love him dearly but he cant see a future with me. Hope you are well whatever happened. I have no idea what hes doing or thinking. It took me years to reclaim my life, and only after I found emotionally safe professionals and friends. Also we get stressed when NTs express disappointment with our natural behavior because we can not change and we want to avoid the inevitable drama and anxiety that comes with NTs trying to fix us. Good evening all. People generally feel safe if they believe they can solve all problems. 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